Today I witnessed yet another facebook incident. This time about the big ole favorite ‘same sex marriage and parenting issue’ Of course this is an extremely controversial issue, and there will always be people that agree and disagree but few that agree to disagree…
Why is this?
Because most people are quick to voice their opinions hoping to be herd and even quicker to shut others down if they do not agree. So I understand this has become the ‘norm’ for everyone, I mean we are all sucked in to the media, social networking, and the idea of becoming a ‘freedom of speech’ nation but is that really what this is about? We are all under the impression that our tiny little opinion will change the whole entire world just because we are a person and everyone is ‘for the people’ and ‘for equal rights’ but in reality no matter what opinions we have there will always be someone on the edge or their seat just waiting to object.
Of course when I came across this particular comment board on facebook, I, like most people had to join in on the action, and voice my tiny little opinion – in hope that I get herd and maybe it would sway others opinions… So I wrote my nifty long comment up and decided to press send.
This is what I wrote – spelling/grammatical errors and all.
“It’s easy to just point the blame at homophobia when it comes to disagreeing with same sex couples, marriage and parenting… But is it honestly homophobia that is causing people dislike this particular subject? I don’t think so – why don’t I think that? Because not you nor I actually know what these apparant ‘homophobic’ people are actually thinking and why. It is also just as bad for attacking them back for not agreeing with your views.
For example: Sandy is a lesbian, Sandy and her girlfriend want to get married but the law says no. Sandys friend Tom says “Hey Sandy, I accept that you are a lesbian, but well the law says you can’t get married, I agree with that law” Sandy responds with “That is fair enough Tom, thank you for your honesty, I value your opinion” but Sandys girlfriend disagrees and thinks Tom is homophobic anyway because he doesn’t share the same views or opinions as her.
Do you see where I am comming from? It’s is not homophobic to not agree with same sex anything, it is merely freedom of speech, choice and maintaining the ability to think and feel as an individual and not as a sheep in a herd of cattle. To attack someone and call them homophobic for not agreeing with same sex anything is the exact same as attacking someone for wanting same sex to be equal and you are just as bad…
Wake up to the world and realize that everyone in entitled to their own opinion, their own view on life, their own sexual prefrence and so on. No one should ne attacked for not following the system and no one should be attacked for following the system.”
Now of course I value my opinion, I feel its pretty valid. Just like everyone else who has commented on there. Including all the people that think same sex parenting is ok and people who think its wrong. But what I am wondering is if I can recognize that people entitled to their own opinions, then why can’t others? Why are there many people who can’t sit there and be like tom and sandy? Just plain accepting? Further more it is also a very confusing subject.
If I am writing this post, about not understanding why a lot of people aren’t accepting of others opinions and life style am I then just as bad for questioning it? Am I then just as bad for not understanding why? Because by not understanding and by questioning why they don’t just accept others opinions, is that, in its self, just me not accepting that people can’t accept something?