No more, not now, not ever, just no.
Posted October 12, 2012on:
I haven’t written a post in a few days, but I feel it was good to have this time to think of my next post.
I have decided that I just need to write this to give myself some ground to take my next step on.
One thing I am a sucker for is being manipulated and I am easy to upset if you use something I did against me. This is one thing that has completely turned my world around over and over again, and caused me to make the same mistakes again and again.
Realising this through the help of a few people extreamly close to me, has resulted in me being able to recognize the signs of manipulation, take a step back and actually think about how I respond before I do so. I now feel it is important to do this with everything.
Going back to the book ‘dont sweat the small stuff’ the author speaks about how it is important to think about your response when someone talks to you, that way you can be sure it is what you want to say.
Being able to finally put this into practice has given the confidence to basically say ‘hey no, you can’t manipulate me like that, its not my fault you can’t do that, no one is stopping you’
I also feel that because this is MY blog, I should also not be afraid of writing the wrong thing and upsetting someone. Which is what I did – For so long I have held back from expressing my feelings and pain in fear of being manipulated into believing that it was all my fault I felt that way, when it wasnt. Or that it was my fault that someone could not motivate themselves to do something.
No matter who you are with, you can do anything and be anyone. You should also never blame someone else for you not getting off your bum and doing something or for your inability to achieve something.
And with saying that, I leave you with this picture