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For those of you who are wondering, I posted my first draft copy, of my first chapter, of my first novel and for the first time. That is a lot of firsts. http://allworldissues.com/2012/12/05/rubys-notes-chapter-1-draft-thoughts/
I asked people for constructive criticism (yes good and bad) one thing you need to realize if you want to publish your work – you need to seek the criticism, and face the music – otherwise how are you going to improve and make it better?
Last night I spent a bit of time editing it (old school paper and pen style)
here is some of the edited copy – And for those who are wondering ALL my work IS in fact Copyrighted. So don’t be thieving
Being a school teacher wasn’t all it had cracked up to be. Sure there were a few perks, seeing the smiles on those children’s faces every time I entered the room, just as easily they smiled when it was time to pack their bags and go home, teaching them all about how the world works… How much they actually listen to is a different story. My name is Ruby, Ruby Kensington but you can call me Miss K.
I’m not married, I don’t even have a boyfriend, I don’t have children of my own and I don’t have any friends. No I am not a weirdo or maybe I am. You can decide that for yourself. I’m going to tell you a story about how I ended up in the position I am in.
June 28th 8:40pm. 1993
It was the 90’s and I was fresh out of law school, already I had already received my first job offer. I was desperate, so I went for it not knowing quite what I was getting myself into. We had arranged to meet at 9am the next day to discuss what the job involves, the only problem was that I did not know who I was meeting or why. I had received the phone call out of the blue, and the person I had spoken to did not go into any detail about the job, they just gave me a time and the address of where I would be meeting my ‘potential employer.’ When you are a lawyer, you don’t think too much about those types of phone calls – although I would have preferred to pick the location myself.
That night I had a group date with my best friends Chloe and Sandra.
They had been my friends since we were in law school. Chloe had long blond hair with colors running through it, pinks, purples, blues and oranges. She was short, maybe 5’2 and she was very socially awkward. When Chloe was younger she really wanted to be a hairdresser, but her mum forced her into attending law school. Chloe didn’t want to upset her mother, so, she used her talents with hair as a side business as a way to make some extra cash. Now Sandra on the other hand was the complete opposite. Sandra was a girl of status in the law industry – as her dad was a lawyer. She was tall with luscious tanned legs that go for miles. Sandra had dark hair and dark eyes, with a European look to her plus she was really skinny and everything about her screamed sexy. Sandra always had all the guys pining over her like little puppies, even though she turned them all down.
As the night progressed I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was being watched. You know the type of feeling you get when you think there is someone who just won’t stop staring at you? The hairs on the back of your neck stand up and cold shivers run down your spine, as if someone had ‘just walked over your grave’ as they say. That’s the feeling I had now, so I decided to call it a night with my friends and walk home.
As I was walking I started to feel dizzy, queasy even… did I really drink that much? A few minutes passed by and I couldn’t bring myself to walk any further. I hailed the first cab I saw and jumped in. My house was about a 10 minute walk away from our favorite hangout but I just couldn’t bear to walk any longer. The taxi drive made me feel worse. I wasn’t even sure if I was even in a taxi anymore and I just passed out.
I haven’t written a post in a few days, but I feel it was good to have this time to think of my next post.
I have decided that I just need to write this to give myself some ground to take my next step on.
One thing I am a sucker for is being manipulated and I am easy to upset if you use something I did against me. This is one thing that has completely turned my world around over and over again, and caused me to make the same mistakes again and again.
Realising this through the help of a few people extreamly close to me, has resulted in me being able to recognize the signs of manipulation, take a step back and actually think about how I respond before I do so. I now feel it is important to do this with everything.
Going back to the book ‘dont sweat the small stuff’ the author speaks about how it is important to think about your response when someone talks to you, that way you can be sure it is what you want to say.
Being able to finally put this into practice has given the confidence to basically say ‘hey no, you can’t manipulate me like that, its not my fault you can’t do that, no one is stopping you’
I also feel that because this is MY blog, I should also not be afraid of writing the wrong thing and upsetting someone. Which is what I did – For so long I have held back from expressing my feelings and pain in fear of being manipulated into believing that it was all my fault I felt that way, when it wasnt. Or that it was my fault that someone could not motivate themselves to do something.
No matter who you are with, you can do anything and be anyone. You should also never blame someone else for you not getting off your bum and doing something or for your inability to achieve something.
And with saying that, I leave you with this picture
http://nativemichigander.com/ and I were discussing the weather, and he took a photo of the sky so I thought I would return the favour. Plus show everyone what an interesting spring day it is today here in Adelaide Sa Australia.
So I have had my Galaxy tab for around 4-5 months now, maybe less, and there are just some things that bug me about it. Sure it is great having a mini portable computer, that takes a sim card, has portable in-built Wi-Fi… but it is nothing but a crappier version of a laptop… with less features, perks and you have to buy an attaching keyboard if you don’t like the touch screen.
Not only that, BUT the Android market does not offer you a free word document app that checks grammar and spelling. But it does offer you a wordpress app… Without the spell check,
this is insanely annoying because not only do I go through my posts and realize that i have made a lot of mistakes, I have left out letters that I could have sworn i had touched and i have added a lot of letters that didn’t need to go there at all…
Also not to mention the tablets inbuilt auto-correct is worse than those iPhone auto-correct screen shots you see floating around on facebook and on various sites. No it’s not that it auto-corrects words to what it thinks it should be… it AUTOMATICALLY places words it thinks should come after and changes words to make you sound like a blubbering idiot that doesn’t know what she is saying.
I am not saying that I dislike having a tablet… not at all, I just think that maybe the next time Samsung want to bring out ‘the next best thing’ someone should direct them over here to read this, just to get a few good and useful ideas.
1) We do not need auto-correct… we need a spell check option we can choose before we post up anything on the phone or tablet, and I mean anything
2) We need grammar checkers too… How else do you expect people with poor grammar to not only learn about it, but avoid the embarrassment and harassment that comes with not knowing your ‘shit’
3) I think it would be safe to say that maybe you should make it compatible with computers. I have an usb charger cord here and I plug it into my computer and then… yeah nothing happens. Thus leaving me sitting here after half an hour of trying to figure out how to use my Bluetooth settings, trying to Bluetooth all my eBook’s off my father’s computer onto my tablet.
4) MICRO SD SLOT… mine does not have one… so when my space runs out I will have to find some other way of storing the next 6 months of my life…
Just to number a few… Now I know you might be thinking “why don’t you just use your lap-top?”
Well that is a funny story… it is sort of broken, slow, doesn’t have a completely functional keyboard and my partner is using it… Oh did I mention it runs off the Android system too? Yeah, me thinks something fishy might be going on here.
So what are your thoughts readers, does your electronic device need something, what bugs you about it and what could you suggest for the next update (In hope that maybe these companies will come across this and steal our ideas, but only in order to benefit us.)
Looking forward to your responses
So as mentioned in my previous post ‘Why? Because I am a mum I am currently reading Dont sweat the small stuff for mums: Simple ways to stress less and enjoy your family more, written by Kristine Carlson.
I havent read much more since that post earlier today, but I did say that I was going to write some more about it. So where do I start? I took a few photos of some chapter titles to help with this particular post. So here we go.
It is true, I have been in many situations where I have been looked down upon for my parenting, and I am sure that you (if you are a mum reading this) have been in this situation too. I would have to admit, there are some mums I know, that I would not see as ‘the perfect mother’ and some that I just do not see the ‘mothering quality’ at all… But as it explains in the book, just because your parenting style is different to that of your fellow mothers in crime, does not mean it is not working for them. Every child is different, every child needs to be taught different, every child has different energy and achedemic levels, and who knows your child best than you? So you adapt your parenting to suit each individual child.
Being a mum is stressfull… Very stressfull… And we have our good days and our bad days, it is important that we ‘nourish our spirit’ as well as our over all mental health. What this means is it is ok to take time for yourself, have a breather, and dont feel guilty about it! Honestly who cares if your partner is nagging you because you want a 20 minute break – he can look after the kids for a bit. If you are a single mum Kristine suggests that you make a safe play area outside of your bedroom door so that if something happens you can still be there. We need time out of each day to regain our composure and our energy, otherwise we are usless and cranky. And nobody wants that.
I don’t need to go into detail with this one, all I will say is Kristine suggests you warn those around you that you are having an off day and not to take your mood to heart.
This particular one is mentioned in one of the other ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’ books in the series, and I think this one in particular applys to everyone. The act of breathing before you speak is simple: when someone says something to you take a breath before you respond – this not only allows the other person to see that you are listening to them, it gives you time to think clearly about what you are going to say back to them. How annoying is it when you are speaking to someone and they cut you off mid sentence because they are so eager to be center of attention? I have had this many times, and find I cannot get a word in, then I notice myself doing it back to them… Which makes it worse. So try breathing before you speak, you might find the person you are talking to starts to do the same.
My personal addition… Sit down and sip on a drink you really enjoy, read a book or reflect on your day, write a personal diary entry about your day, week or year. Reflect a bit, maybe write a post for your blog reflecting your time on wordpress. I would like to take the time to reflect on my post I posted earlyer today where I screen shot my progess so far.
I had this many views and now I would like to just sit here be happy for a moment about this
Taken a few hours later, I really do appreciate everyone who has been stopping by to have a read of my posts and leave a friendly comment. Thank you again for all the support!
I have been a little absent lately, absent of here and somewhat of mind. I thought I would just give you a run down of the recent events. I have completed chapter 1 and almost chapter 2 of my novel, I have outlined (so I don’t forget) the key points for chapter 3 and 4 maybe 5. I just had my phone reconnected and now it is off to repairs because it fell out of my pocket and the screen shattered ($300 to fix.) I have pretty much been down in the dumps with bad luck for 5 years now 2 to go and my 7 years will be over, I am just wondering when did I break a mirror? around about 5 years ago… maybe there is some truth to this superstition stuff.
Now onto my writing. So I am considering tapping into my Uni’s resources to change to a different Major. So even though I am currently doing business management as I think about it I will never have enough money to start my own business unless I publish my novel and strike it big, but this is where the self-doubt comes back again and now even more than before I am paranoid. Not paranoid about my writing so much, but paranoid about my safety and well-being…
Going back to this post http://allworldissues.com/2012/07/17/life-was-never-meant-to-be-easy/ I wrote about a falling out I had with a friend. Upon visiting the hospital for my appointment to book my c-section in, my partner and I bumped into one of the girls I wasnt friends with anymore… She and her partner literally leaped at the opportunity to share the fact that they had pretty much been stalking my partner and I and knew EVERYTHING we have done and everything that had happened to us in the past 9-10 months… stuff that we had not shared with people and stuff that just didn’t happen at all… Not to mention they proceeded to make my partner feel horrible and embarrassed in the middle of the hospital and use foul and inappropriate language in front of young children AND their parents.
So now I am stuck. I feel I cannot write on here anymore and I feel I cannot even have a sit down with a friend for a cup of coffee purely because I do not know who has been telling these people everything about my life and why they are so obsessed with me and making my life miserable.
Yes I know I am mentioning it on here, but that is because I have a readership to please and despite my paranoia I must type on and well ‘ignore the haters’ as they say. I will continue to write!
So there is my reason for being away for a while, now onto some happier things. My book, oh wow is this a happy subject, I am so proud to say that I have been writing and writing and since I am determined to get my book published it has given me the motivation to keep writing. But one thing I have realised is I have forgotten a lot of skills that could be considered ‘essential’ to writing a book and will now need to seek further education, which I am excited about as there are some paths I can take for this, and there are a few academy’s where I live that specialise in the subjects I that I can attend or do online. That is exciting!
With saying all that I hope you all have a wonderful day or night where ever you reside and farewell until next time