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Rubys Notes – Chapter 1 part 1 edited

For those of you who are wondering, I posted my first draft copy, of my first chapter, of my first novel and for the first time. That is a lot of firsts. http://allworldissues.com/2012/12/05/rubys-notes-chapter-1-draft-thoughts/

I asked people for constructive criticism (yes good and bad) one thing you need to realize if you want to publish your work – you need to seek the criticism, and face the music – otherwise how are you going to improve and make it better?

Last night I spent a bit of time editing it (old school paper and pen style)

book edit pic

here is some of the edited copy – And for those who are wondering ALL my work IS in fact Copyrighted. So don’t be thieving ;)

Being a school teacher wasn’t all it had cracked up to be. Sure there were a few perks, seeing the smiles on those children’s faces every time I entered the room, just as easily they smiled when it was time to pack their bags and go home, teaching them all about how the world works… How much they actually listen to is a different story. My name is Ruby, Ruby Kensington but you can call me Miss K.

I’m not married, I don’t even have a boyfriend, I don’t have children of my own and I don’t have any friends. No I am not a weirdo or maybe I am. You can decide that for yourself. I’m going to tell you a story about how I ended up in the position I am in.

June 28th 8:40pm. 1993

It was the 90’s and I was fresh out of law school, already I had already received my first job offer. I was desperate, so I went for it not knowing quite what I was getting myself into. We had arranged to meet at 9am the next day to discuss what the job involves, the only problem was that I did not know who I was meeting or why. I had received the phone call out of the blue, and the person I had spoken to did not go into any detail about the job, they just gave me a time and the address of where I would be meeting my ‘potential employer.’ When you are a lawyer, you don’t think too much about those types of phone calls – although I would have preferred to pick the location myself.

That night I had a group date with my best friends Chloe and Sandra.

They had been my friends since we were in law school. Chloe had long blond hair with colors running through it, pinks, purples, blues and oranges. She was short, maybe 5’2 and she was very socially awkward. When Chloe was younger she really wanted to be a hairdresser, but her mum forced her into attending law school. Chloe didn’t want to upset her mother, so, she used her talents with hair as a side business as a way to make some extra cash. Now Sandra on the other hand was the complete opposite. Sandra was a girl of status in the law industry – as her dad was a lawyer. She was tall with luscious tanned legs that go for miles. Sandra had dark hair and dark eyes, with a European look to her plus she was really skinny and everything about her screamed sexy. Sandra always had all the guys pining over her like little puppies, even though she turned them all down.

As the night progressed I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was being watched. You know the type of feeling you get when you think there is someone who just won’t stop staring at you? The hairs on the back of your neck stand up and cold shivers run down your spine, as if someone had ‘just walked over your grave’ as they say. That’s the feeling I had now, so I decided to call it a night with my friends and walk home.

As I was walking I started to feel dizzy, queasy even… did I really drink that much? A few minutes passed by and I couldn’t bring myself to walk any further. I hailed the first cab I saw and jumped in. My house was about a 10 minute walk away from our favorite hangout but I just couldn’t bear to walk any longer. The taxi drive made me feel worse. I wasn’t even sure if I was even in a taxi anymore and I just passed out.

Don’t sweat the small stuff for mums

So as mentioned in my previous post ‘Why? Because I am a mum I am currently reading Dont sweat the small stuff for mums: Simple ways to stress less and enjoy your family more, written by Kristine Carlson.



I havent read much more since that post earlier today, but I did say that I was going to write some more about it. So where do I start? I took a few photos of some chapter titles to help with this particular post. So here we go.


It is true, I have been in many situations where I have been looked down upon for my parenting, and I am sure that you (if you are a mum reading this) have been in this situation too. I would have to admit, there are some mums I know, that I would not see as ‘the perfect mother’ and some that I just do not see the ‘mothering quality’ at all… But as it explains in the book, just because your parenting style is different to that of your fellow mothers in crime, does not mean it is not working for them. Every child is different, every child needs to be taught different, every child has different energy and achedemic levels, and who knows your child best than you? So you adapt your parenting to suit each individual child.


Being a mum is stressfull… Very stressfull… And we have our good days and our bad days, it is important that we ‘nourish our spirit’ as well as our over all mental health. What this means is it is ok to take time for yourself, have a breather, and dont feel guilty about it! Honestly who cares if your partner is nagging you because you want a 20 minute break – he can look after the kids for a bit. If you are a single mum Kristine suggests that you make a safe play area outside of your bedroom door so that if something happens you can still be there. We need time out of each day to regain our composure and our energy, otherwise we are usless and cranky. And nobody wants that.


I don’t need to go into detail with this one, all I will say is Kristine suggests you warn those around you that you are having an off day and not to take your mood to heart.


This particular one is mentioned in one of the other ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’ books in the series, and I think this one in particular applys to everyone. The act of breathing before you speak is simple: when someone says something to you take a breath before you respond – this not only allows the other person to see that you are listening to them, it gives you time to think clearly about what you are going to say back to them. How annoying is it when you are speaking to someone and they cut you off mid sentence because they are so eager to be center of attention? I have had this many times, and find I cannot get a word in, then I notice myself doing it back to them… Which makes it worse. So try breathing before you speak, you might find the person you are talking to starts to do the same.


My personal addition… Sit down and sip on a drink you really enjoy, read a book or reflect on your day, write a personal diary entry about your day, week or year. Reflect a bit, maybe write a post for your blog reflecting your time on wordpress. I would like to take the time to reflect on my post I posted earlyer today where I screen shot my progess so far.


I had this many views and now I would like to just sit here be happy for a moment about this


Taken a few hours later, I really do appreciate everyone who has been stopping by to have a read of my posts and leave a friendly comment. Thank you again for all the support!

My crusade to help the youth.

If your like me then growing up you found it hard to fit in at school. People spread rumours about you and eventually you lived up the reputation they gave you.

That is problem one with bullying – for example; you get called a freak all the time and eventually you start to believe it. then you start to change the way you dress to fit the name you have been given and then you start to ‘act’ like what you think is a freak because you believe you must be. soon you get an Internet fan base and you are now popular and start to bully people back for bullying you because now you have the control and the friends.

That is one example of how bullying can effect someone. Here is another example of the effects of bullying.

When a girl has a lot of guy friends behind her back all her ‘friends’ are calling her names assuming that she is obviously sleeping with all her guys friends. Eventually her ‘friends’ decide it is a good idea to spread around that she is… To the whole school. The boys that are involved with the rumours don’t denie any of the allegation in fear or not looking or being ‘cool’ to his mates. This girl is now being called names and all her previous friends hate her and continue to laugh and taunt. They spread more rumours. Because to them it is funny and they have the power in the situation.

This girl becomes depressed and usually goes either 3 ways
1) downward spiral turns to drugs and alcohol and lives up to this reputation
2) attempts to and sometimes succeeds to commit suicide
3) she ignores it and rises above it all

No matter what option this girl chooses though she now has this reputation behind her that others have created for her. So no matter where she goes or how old she is, she cannot avoid the talk. about 4-5 out of 10 times the people bullied choose option 1 and eventually lives up to the reputation they have been given, because it is easier for them to deal with if they make it true and it can be an easy escape from reality.

I can honestly say once upon a time I was the girl who chose option one. It had eventually reached the point where I gave up the fight to keep my reputation clean because other girls had already tarnished it beyond return. Eventually I did also discover drugs, but before that I would just go to party’s with the friends I had left. They were people who still liked to spread rumours about me so they weren’t really friends just people to hang around with. no matter what I did the rumours kept popping up.

It had gotten to the point where I felt like nothing I did was worth anything at all because I had already been ‘branded’ by lies that were far more important than the truth… The truth can be boring to these people.

Ok lets take a pause here and get something straight. I am not writing this so that you all know I was very unpopular at school, I am writing this because maybe there are some youths out there who need to read the effects bullying can have on someone. Some people just need to be bought back to reality and realize that bullying people in any shape, way or form is never ok.

I am sure at the time it will make you feel powerful and superior. You feel amazing when you’re in power and sometimes you can get ahead of yourself.

So basically my post today is another one of these awareness posts, because I have been bullied, I have dealt with the effects of it for years and I still am, to this day dealing with it.

I hope the people who bullied me are reading this now and realize they aren’t cool for bullying me. There are people out there who to this day think that I deserved everything I got and I had it coming to me. How can you have something coming to you if you never did anything wrong in the first place?

I do not see how a 14-year-old who had no friends anymore, who’s grades were slipping, who just went to school and went to work, who watched everyone else go to friends houses and underage rages deserved to have a metal ruler thrown at the back of her head in class, or deserved to be chased around the school by more than 100 people throwing rotten food and things they had found in the trash, or to be hit in the back of the head over and over again because a girl just felt like doing that every time she saw me. Nobody deserves that ever.

You see all these campaigns about bullying but do they really teach kids that bullying is wrong? Do teachers even care enough about it? Or parents for that matter? When I was in school that is what happened to me and not once did a teacher stand up and say ‘hey that’s wrong.’ They just ignored it or sent me out of class. I never once saw an anti bullying dvd either. To this day I still get called names and I still sometimes receive abuse from those I went to school with and people who are adults and should know better than that. I see bullying all over facebook older women fighting with each other, kids attacking other kids, adults attacking children, facebook groups aimed at bullying individuals, people with a disability being bullied and being the bully themselves, mothers of disabled children bullying people because they are not paying attention to their disabled child and people bullying the government for making a mistake or demanding they deserve more money… the list really does go on. Ever since the internet arrived it has just become an easier way to bully someone and get away with it.

I have many readers and every day I am reaching more and more people. I would really like your help on this, I would like the spread some awareness against bullying the most powerful way I know how – the internet and written word. I would really love to be able to start my own world wide campagne against bullying and actually visit schools and try to make a difference. But where can I start? Well I can start here on my blog.

If you are reading this I would like you to help spread this around, because it really does have to improve. Please write a post about your experience with bullying, how it effected you and the person you are now because of it. Link it back to mine so that I can read it and the readers of yours can also hear my story and my crusade and hopefully write a post aswell.

I am determined to get my message out there and hopefully help younger people avoid being in the situation I was.

Thank you

How far is too Far when it comes to disciplining our Children?

When I was a kid I received a smack on the behind when I was being naughty. I knew my place and I respect my parents to this day for doing so. As I was growing so was the trend ‘smacking our kids is wrong.’  

Yes, I can see how sometimes smacking can be inappropriate and uncalled for, but when has it become normal to not discipline your kids at all?   When my son is being naughty he receives a light smack to tell him off, put him in his place and so he grows up to respect his parents. Am I really considered a bad mother over this?  

More and more I am seeing the lack of discipline becoming detrimental to society. Not only are the kids I have observed out and about at all hours of the night, they are running a muck and causing a lot of trouble.  

Is this because peoples attitude to discipline changed? Or am I completely missing something and all the younger generations brains are hardwired to thinking that dressing like a hussy at 12, drinking all night at 10, hanging ‘down the street’ instead of being at school (skipping class) and not disciplining their kids (if they choose to have them) is A-oh-kay?  

I think I must be missing something. I know a few mum who never say no to their children, who never tell their children off and who think smacking is wrong, but has it gotten beyond a joke when it comes to not disciplining our children to the point that we might be setting them all up for failure because they grew up without any discipline?  

Children can only learnt by being taught through observation, interaction and discipline – well that is the way I see it anyway.  

When I bring up the subject around other mum I get mixed opinions (of course with any controversial subject) but most of them have only been a mum just over a year and haven’t really been in the situation where proper discipline has been needed.  

So to all my readers who would like to share their opinion with me (no judgment all opinions are welcome) please do because I hope I am not some crazy mum who forgot to hop onto the boat of ‘no discipline equals a better behaved child’ because I am not seeing it at all. Anywhere.