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Once upon a butterfly

I remember when I was younger, I could write and write… There was never an ending to my stories. Now that I am older, I don’t have the time to just write and write and write.
For my readers, they are probably thinking ‘but you update your blog alot’ yes that is true, but I take a whole day to write a post, or write when the kids are napping or at night time.

How do we find the time to keep writing though, when life seems so busy? Truth is its not about ‘finding time’ its about choosing how to use your time wisely.
My pages and computers used to be filled with short stories, if only they had of been as valuable to me then as they would have been now. Now my pages are mostly blank, waiting for someone to come along and write something other than study notes on them.


When I say ‘once upon a butterfly’ I think about how a butterfly seems so insignificant to most. Well its just a small creature right? Something that doesn’t live very long, I mean they are pretty I guess…
Like all creatures, organisms, animals, minerals – well basically everything that isn’t a human – the live their life… That’s really all, they aren’t living and striving to impress the world, just one other butterfly, same with any animal. Seriously could you imagine animals trying to impress other species? It would look a bit like this.


My point is, it doesn’t matter if I write once a day, once a month or once a year. I still impress my partner every time and that’s my goal.

Once upon a butterfly, life was simple, they were in love and life was blissful.

Yes I found this little critter on my walk yesterday - my inspiration for this post

Internet not so safety

I wanted to take some time to talk about ‘internet safety.’ Why? Well because it is important as a user of the internet that you do everything you can so you and your children stay safe on the net.

Now I know this post will probably be overlooked, because lets face it. Everyone thinks they are being totally safe on the internet… Until its too late.

Ok so let me run some of the ‘Teen internet usage’ statistics past you – as they seem to be the majority of internet users these days.

So firstly, did you know only 5 % of offenders pretend to be a teenager when talking to your teen, yep that was only 5 %. So that means you or your teenagers 95% of the time know the age of the offender and you or they keep talking to them – regardless of the fact they just told you they were 45 and you had a ‘mighty fine body’ for a 15 year old (this is classic pedophile behavior.)

Nearly 75% of victims met up with their offender more than once, yep, they went and had coffee with them and hung out as ‘buddies’ and you didn’t even know it.

Although it is rare – an internet obsession can lead to stalking, and if you feel you are being stalked you should probably report it to the police or tell your parents.

Youth who engaged in four or more risky online behaviors were much more likely to report online sexual solicitations. The online risky behaviors included maintaining buddy lists that included strangers, discussing sex online with people they did not know in person and being rude or nasty online. Facebook users have so much fun targeting people for these things.

Boys who were gay or questioning their sexuality may be more susceptible to internet-initiated sex crimes.

58% of teens do not think posting photos or other personal info on a social networking site is unsafe and nearly half of teens are not worried about people using their personal info for things they do not want… So basically stealing your identity – hey kids, ever looked up fraud?

Many teens are just not concerned with these things, and assume they are ‘all grown up’ because they have the ability to fake their age, look at adult content and have adult conversations with strangers.

But its not just teens, its adults too… Look I’m not trying to scare you or stear you away from one of man’s best inventions yet. I am just pointing out that you shouldn’t always believe what somebody tells you over the ok internet – I know because a dear friend of mine was murdered for this exact thing a few years ago Google Carly Ryan.

71% of teens have a social networking profile.

69% of teens receive private messages from people they don’t know and most of them don’t tell a trusted adult.

64% post photos or videos of themselves, eg in their underwear or nude on facebook. This means that those 30-90 year old strangers they have added will gawk over your childs photos or your own… Umm eww!

58% of teens publicly show their address (down to the house) and 8% their phone number (most my friends phone numbers are public.)

Statistics from http://www.onlinesafetysite.com/p1/teenstats.htm

I wanted to write this so we are all reminded to take more precautions when it comes to our Facebooks, WordPress, Twitters, MySpace, Tumblr, Blogspot, StumbleUpon, Hotmail, Gmail, msn, ebuddy, linked etc etc, so on and so forth, you get the idea. There are some real creeps out there who take pride in watching your every move on your social networking profiles, who always wait for your next photo of your cleavage, legs or even feet and hands.

If you have anything to add please add it in the comment section below.

Be safe


What if money didn’t matter?

Today mum showed me a video called ‘what if money didn’t matter.’ It is a short 3 min vid basically saying “forget money, do what you want or be unhappy for the rest of your life” in a nutshell.

I completely agree – which brings me to today.

Today is a very interesting day, there is still a few things I have to get done today, I am lucky to have gotten this far (insert ‘ive gone clinically insane’ laugh here.)

Tomorrow I will be boarding ‘The Overland’ train to Melbourne – with my little family. With that I will also be starting my slow journey around the world – Starting with Victoria.

The line that really makes you question everything you’re doing is “why work in a job you’re unhappy at, to earn money, to be able to continue working in a job you’re unhappy with” I believe this is spot on.
When you look at it from my point of view, you only have one life, why waste it being unhappy?

Why go to work everyday, come home, sit in front of the tv and hoard all that money you have accumulated? What just because ‘if you don’t have money you can’t do anything’

All you need is a backpack full of the basics, a pen and some paper. Then you’re set, you can travel anywhere you want.

“But how, with out money I can’t do anything?”

This is where we as people have forgotten that money is a man made currency, and no matter how rich you are, you are in debt and so is the country you live in or visit. You can trade things, sell stuff, busk, answer jobs in the local paper where you are staying – if you actually talk to people and are willing to try new things, you can travel anywhere you’d like, earn commodities and always find a place to stay. It’s an experience, it makes you uncomfortable thinking about it, but people do it for a reason – you only have one chance on this planet, make it count by living life with an open heart and an open mind. Forget the materialistic things, forget the money and just live!

Stay tuned for my very first travel post.

My big adventure day 2: live life with your whole heart.


My mum keeps this hanging in the toilet, I think its pretty self explanatory.


My son has agreed to help me with my posts for my holiday. His name is Setesh and he is 16 months old now and soon he will have a little brother to help.

Tomorrow is my 3D ultrasound and I am really excited, I think if Setesh could understand what an ultrasound is, he would be excited too.

I may be going through a tough time at the moment, but when I look at my son and think of the new addition, I realize that my life is pretty whole and my heart is definitely in it.